Sex & relationships
10 Fully Sick Sex
Love, sex and gender can be just about the most complicated parts of having a body. Add chronic illness into the mix and you’ve got a potential recipe for awkward dates, bedroom compromises and self-loathing ... OR NOT! As Erin Kyan explains, chronic illness can be a gateway to completely unique, unforgettable experiences, and relationships that go the extra mile in terms of communication and intimacy. Sometimes, knowing the limits of your body also means seeing its possibilities.
In the season finale of Pill Pop, hosts Silvi and Izzie receive a mystery tape, plus audio producer and disabled performer Erin Kyan talks love, sex, gender and accessibility. We don’t recall Dolly Doctor ever answering a dilemma about chronically ill love and sex, but if they did, it would probably be something like this!
Content warning: this episode includes discussions of physical and mental illness, transphobia, hospitals and medical trauma.Further reading Erin Kyan's website Erin Kyan's Fibromyalgia tweet: ‘just saw a picture that said "fight like a girl; fibromyalgia awareness" and while this isn't the first time I've been misgendered by my condition, it sure is the weirdest. (ffs people "fibro more commanly affects women" is not the same statement as "fibro only affects women")’, published 25 November, 2019 Passer Vulpes Productions Quippings: Disability Unleashed Get in touch
We want to hear from our listeners! Tweet us your own love stories while chronically ill at @PillPopCast, or send us an email at email@example.com.In this episode
Hosted, produced and edited by Silvi Vann-Wall and Izzie Austin. Podcast producer at Passer Vulpes Productions and Quippings performer Erin Kyan is our guest.
Recorded at Studio 757, Melbourne and Silvi and Izzie's respective home offices. This series is produced in partnership with the Wheeler Centre's Signal Boost programme. Mentorship and production support from Jon Tjhia, Beth Atkinson-Quinton and Bec Fary.
Music: 'Dip Dop' by Barrie Gledden; 'Sad Marimba Planet' and 'More on That Later' by Lee Rosevere. Sound effects sourced from freesound.orgTranscript
A transcript of this episode will be available soon.
Take It From Me
Take It From Me is back, and let's face it: you need it right now.
Your lockdown love-life is terrible. Your hair is a mess, your hygiene is bad and – look – you're not exactly a prize at the moment, are you?
That's okay! We’ll work through this together, using the tried-and-tested-but-definitely-never-independently-evaluated Take It From Me method.
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Lisa Taddeo: Three Women
'We always talk about daddy issues for women … I think that mommy issues for women is so much bigger, specifically when it comes to desire.'Lisa Taddeo
'With the #MeToo movement right now, we are finally saying what we don't want as a gender,' Lisa Taddeo has said. 'But we are still not talking about what we do want.'
Taddeo's bestselling book, Three Women, is all about what women want. It's a work of immersive non-fiction, telling the intimate true stories of three American women, and of how their sexual desires have been shaped, distorted, fulfilled and exploited.
Described on NPR as 'a work of deep observation, long conversations, and a kind of journalistic alchemy', Three Women took Taddeo eight years to write. She travelled across the country to be near her subjects for months at a time, to learn about their lives and their personal histories.
With its focus on power, judgement, shame and infatuation, the book has become an international bestseller, sparking impassioned discussion and debate. How do we surprise and disturb others – and ourselves – with what we want? How are our desires deeply idiosyncratic and how are they universal?
In this podcast-only conversation – originally slated to be held in May, in partnership with Sydney Writers' Festival – Taddeo discusses these ideas and more with Sophie Black.
Miranda Tapsell: Top End Girl
‘The Territory has never left me. It's the place I go to when I want to feel whole again.’
Actor, writer and producer Miranda Tapsell is a beloved figure of Australian screen culture. She’s a familiar face on television – with credits on Love Child, Get Krack!n, Play School, Newton’s Law, Cleverman and Wolf Creek…
1 Moses Supposes He Has a Diagnosis
Moses supposes his toeses are roses … but does Moses have endometriosis? Who knowses! In this episode of Pill Pop, we’re talking all about diagnoses with improv comedian Cristina Spizzica. We also take a [literal] deep dive into the endo-affected reproductive system. Wait. What does that mean?
For many chronically ill people, the diagnostic process is long, finicky and frustrating. From denying your own pain, to not being believed by doctors, getting diagnosed properly is one of the hardest aspects of chronic illness … then, you have to live with it. Forever.
ps. Check out this endometriosis vs attractiveness study (yes, it's real!): https://www.physiciansweekly.com/women-with-endometriosis-more-attractive/
Content warning: discussions of severe physical and mental illness, hospitals and medical trauma.
Sensory warning: some scenes (halfway through) contain loud crashing, splashing and droning sounds.Get in touch
We want to hear from our listeners. Tweet us your diagnosis story at @PillPopCast, or send us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.In this episode
Hosted, produced and edited by Silvi Vann-Wall and Izzie Austin. Improv comedian and marketer Cristina Spizzica is our guest.
Recorded at Studio 757, Melbourne. This series is produced in partnership with the Wheeler Centre's Signal Boost programme. Mentorship and production support from Bec Fary.
Music: 'Dip Dop' by Barrie Gledden; 'Sad Marimba Planet' and 'More on That Later' by Lee Rosevere; 'Shades of Spring' by Kevin Macleod (CC-BY-4.0).
Sound effects sourced from SoundSnap.Transcript
A PDF transcript of this episode is available; download it here.
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A Walk in the Park: Damon Young with Ruth Quibell
Ruth Quibell, Damon Young and an audience of walkers in Princes Park — Photo: Jon Tjhia
This instalment of our 2017 series A Walk in the Park features two writers, Damon Young and Ruth Quibell, who know walking – and each other – well. They’re married.
'Our culture of exercise is stupid, it is mechanical, it is … concerned with tuning up our bodily engines – and not with having a richer intellectual or ethical life.'Damon Young
Young, a philosopher and writer of numerous books and genres, is the author of How to Think About Exercise, part of The School of Life’s series of books. In the book, he explores how closely bodies and minds relate to each other – and how crucial harmony between them is to our experience of humanity.
Ahead of a relocation to Tasmania (since completed), Young discusses these ideas (and more) on a walk with Quibell, a sociologist and writer who has described walking as her ‘more than a creative practice or physiological tuneup … walking has been my existential remedy’. Listen for an open-air, intimate conversation about walking, thinking and being human.
Photo: Jon Tjhia
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