Private Parts: How to Teach and Learn Consent

Private Parts: How to Teach and Learn Consent

Please note that this video includes discussion of sensitive topics around consent. If you require support (and are in Australia), you can contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Safe Steps Family Violence Response Centre on 1800 015 188. Further resources are available here.

There was 'no means no'. Then 'yes means yes'. Now, we have notions of 'enthusiastic consent' and 'continued consent'. Sexual consent might seem like a simple thing to understand, but the continued prevalence of harassment and sexual assault tells us it's anything but.

Is our culture sending mixed messages? Can the tricky terrain of consent ever be reduced to a simple slogan or a straightforward set of principles that are universally understood and applicable? How can we get better at teaching, and practising, reciprocal respect in all sexual encounters?

In this discussion, we explore these questions and more – with Amy Middleton, Deanne Carson, Anne-lise Ah-fat, Bexx Djentuh-Davis. They look at sex education in schools and discuss how we can teach young people not just about biology, but also about desire and respect. They look, too, at how power differences can affect the context in which consent is given, denied or withdrawn, and talk through the principle of enthusiastic consent and discuss ways we can convey these ideas to young people.

Presented in partnership with Archer Magazine.


Portrait of Amy Middleton

Amy Middleton

Amy Middleton is a Melbourne-based journalist and writer, who founded Archer Magazine, Australia’s first journal of sexual diversity, in 2013. 

Portrait of Anne-lise Ah-fat

Anne-lise Ah-fat

Anne-lise Ah-fat is a community organiser, mother of two, facilitator and educator who is passionate about transformative justice. Anne-lise is a co-founder of Undercurrent Community Education Project, also works as a Training Coordinator – Practice in men's family violence, a men's behaviour change practitioner, family violence consultant and trainer. Anne-lise is passionate about accountability, prison abolition, and malleefowl and co-ordinates Incendium Library and IRL Infoshop. Anne-lise works with persons of diverse cultural and economic backgrounds and believes that social change can only occur collectively.


Portrait of Bexx Djentuh-Davis

Bexx Djentuh-Davis

Bexx is a Maori/Ghanaian women currently residing in Melbourne. Her passion for inclusion has seen her curate and develop events as big as conferences, all with the aim to platform communities that are often forgotten. Ranging from club nights (Box Oceania in Aotearoa, Alterity collective MELB) to corporate and council spaces (Darebin Feast 2017–18, LISTEN conference 2016, Melbourne Fringe), she ensures as an event producer that spaces are as safe as possible for those attending. Prioritising young people, people of colour, people of faith, those with accessibility requirements and those who aren't out as queer, she understands the various ways in which consent plays in these spaces.